TODAY

SURVIVORS OF SUICIDE CONFERENCE at Hilton Waikiki Prince Kuhio Hotel; talks on the grief process and importance of culture and family support; SUICIDE PREVENTION MEDIA WORKSHOP Nov. 20 at The Queen's Medical Center conference center; professional health and social workers, educators, those affected by suicide, the media and interested public are encouraged to attend; hosted by the state Department of Health. www.hawaii.gov/health.

EXCHANGE CLUB OF DOWNTOWN HONOLULU luncheon program, noon to 1:30 p.m. at Oahu Country Club; Bill Riddle will discuss his historical novel "Dead Downwind," which is based on the first attempt to fly from California to Hawai'i; lunch $20. Reservations: 524-0330, ext. 2 or edracers@aol.com.

"DEATH PANELS IN HAWAi'i?" A panel discussion sponsored by the University of Hawai'i Elder Law Program 12:45 to 2 p.m. at William S. Richardson School of Law; topics: death panels, end-of-life counseling, ethics committees, advance health care directives and more; free. Reservations: 956-6544.

WAI'ALAE-KÄHALA NEIGHBORHOOD BOARD MEETING, 7 p.m. at Wesley United Methodist.

WAIPAHU NEIGHBORHOOD BOARD MEETING, 7 p.m. at Waipahu Filcom Center.

TOMORROW

ALOHA GRANDMOTHERS CLUB, Chapter 619 of the National Federation of Grandmother Clubs of America to meet 11:30 a.m. at Wailana Coffeehouse. Reservations: 941-6156.

YOUTH SPEAKS INTERSCHOLASTIC POETRY SLAM, 7 p.m. at Farrington High School; O'ahu high school slam teams compete in a battle of wits; doors open 6 p.m. Sign up/Information: darron@youthspeakshawaii.org.

SATURDAY

"KALAMUNGAY: THE UNTHIRSTY MIRACLE TREE," workshop sponsored by the Honolulu Board of Water Supply and Friends of Hälawa Xeriscape Garden 10 to 11 a.m. at Hälawa Xeriscape Garden, Hälawa Valley Central Park Industrial Area; learn about an attractive outdoor ornamental that saves water and even serves as a food source in some cultures; $5, members free; advance registration required. 748-5363.

VETERAN'S APPRECIATION DAY, noon to 4 p.m. at 1298 Kukila St., Foster Village; barbecue plates, entertainment, door prizes and silent auction; tickets $20; sponsored by Oahu Veterans Center. www.oahuveteranscenter.com, 422-4000.

AAUW FUNDRAISING CONCERT. "Classical Jazz" 5:30 to 9:30 p.m. at 1802 Ke'eaumoku St. will feature wine, pupu and the music of jazz keyboardist and vocalist Scott Smith and pianist Mina Osaka; proceeds will fund the interior renovation of the American Association of University Women's Makiki residence; $20. Tickets: 537-4702.

UPCOMING

HELEMANO FARMS homegrown Norfolk Pine Christmas trees available from Nov. 27; also wreaths and Leyland Cypress trees; advance sale tickets available for nonprofit fundraising. www.HelemanoFarms.com, 622-4287.

CELEBRATION OF YOUTH DINNER, fundraiser for Adult Friends for Youth Nov. 27 at Sheraton Waikiki Hotel ballroom; food, entertainment and auction; tickets $250, reserve tables of 10. Reservations: 833-8775 (Jane Tampon) or afy@afyhawaii.com.

CHRISTMAS BETWEEN THE AVENUES, noon to 10 p.m. Dec. 5 at Nänäkuli Homestead; local crafts, food vendors, keiki rides, classic car show, strongest dog pull, entertainment; a drug- and alcohol-free event. www.nanakulihomestead.com.

FLIER DESIGN CONTEST. University of Hawai'i-West O'ahu will award assorted electronic prizes to finalists for the best designed fliers; high school students grades 9-12 are eligible; send pdf file entries by Feb. 1, with creator's name, school, grade, phone number and e-mail address, to uhwoflyercontest@uhwo.hawaii.edu or mail to 96-129 Ala 'Ike, Pearl City, HI 96782. Information: www.uhwo.hawaii.edu/flyercontest.